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| Cycles |
| 05.18.04 (10:40 pm) [edit] |
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Things just keep going round and round, and repeat. After a month of not speaking to me, and having me deleted and blocked from his MSN list (and did not return my last call to him), J decided to re-add me to his list and chat me up again today. That makes me mad. He can't just waltz in and out of my life like that. I just figured we'd never talk again. End of story. But today he just chatted me up like nothing had happened. When I told him I thought he'd never speak to me again, he just said "yeah, you were irritating me for a bit." :x Perhaps I will give him a piece of mind (again)...I'm not sure I want him in my life. And cycles...I *still* can't believe how relatives of mine meddle. My mom was talking to one of my aunts (on my dad's side) on the phone tonight, and she [the aunt] was trying to persuade her [my mom] to work things out with my dad!! "Make him some soup, and bring it to him." Okay, my dad has moved out for a month now, and he's not given my mom his address. It just angers me that they give her bad advice. Why do they want her to stay with a man who does not treat her with the care and respect she deserves? Why do they want her to stay with a man who cheats on her? I don't know how they think they're benefitting from their advice. It was difficult hearing my mom say how tough it has been living with my dad for the last 10 years, especially the last 5 or so. She was so adamant about him being around that she bent way over backwards for him. I just can't imagine spending my life with someone who vehemently cheats on his wife. *shakes head* Don't they want her to have her dignity? |
posted by: mblog (reply)
post date: 05.21.04 (1:02 pm)
You just need to understand culture. Your mom was brought up to believe that all of these things are family decisions, and that includes parents and older siblings. Just because you refuse to behave properly does not mean that your mom should go along with it. Kids these days!
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 05.21.04 (1:58 pm)
Reply to: mblog
I am behaving properly! I don't want my mom to suffer like my dad's sisters want her to!
posted by: mblog (reply)
post date: 05.22.04 (4:13 pm)
Reply to: rosietulips
When you get advice from your mom, you wish she would understand that it's not about what she wants when it comes to your life. Yet you have a set of views that are completely alien to the way she was raised but you want her to have her dignity as you see it.
It doesn't work that way. She has a certain outlook and that's the way it is. It's not going to change, but you can help by being supportive.
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 05.23.04 (11:02 pm)
Reply to: mblog
I don't usually go to my mom for advice...since she never tells me what I want to hear. But when she expresses that she doesn't trust my father and doesn't see things ever working out, my dad's family tries to change her mind. They give her suggestions on how to win him back.
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