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| Too fishy |
| 03.15.06 (11:05 pm) [edit] |
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The best way to freak me out is to like me or appear really keen on getting into my pants. So last week, Big Legs and I had a good time on our date. He asked me out again. Great, right? Yes. But he suggested renting a movie and chilling and "maybe continue where we left off." That just screams to me "let's get it ON!" I've chickened out and suggested going out for sushi. Quite frankly, our kissing made him seem less attractive to me. |
posted by: CherryBlossmGrl (reply)
post date: 03.15.06 (9:17 pm)
:( Sometimes a kiss says it all. Or maybe he just needs a good teacher? :( "Maybe continue where we left off" ... that's the corniest line in the book!
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 03.15.06 (9:38 pm)
Reply to: CherryBlossmGrl
*L* Definitely corny...his kissing technique was not bad; I just didn't really feel the sparks! Maybe they will come...
posted by: SupremeAnna (reply)
post date: 03.16.06 (4:30 am)
i get freaked out by that too...of course, i get freaked out by sex scenes in movies too; maybe i'm just skittish
posted by: S-I-N-N-E (reply)
post date: 03.16.06 (6:18 am)
give him another go. sometimes it's a lot of pressure for guys (and lord I should know! lol)
posted by: themarina (reply)
post date: 03.16.06 (9:11 am)
i don't know about a second chance. my experience is that if there isn't an initial spark, it's not going to happen. my soon-to-be0-husband (i don't like the word "fiance") and i had sparks with the first touch of the hand. No kidding. When he held my hand for the first time, I felt a shiver and I knew then that he was the one. I've never doubted my decision.
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 03.16.06 (9:25 am)
Reply to: SupremeAnna
Do you get freaked out by sex scenes like horror movies?? *giggle* I'd take a sex scene over a horror flick, that's for sure!
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 03.16.06 (9:27 am)
Reply to: S-I-N-N-E
I'll give him another go :-) But the thought of kissing him again doesn't appeal to me. He wouldn't stop last time!! BTW, do you have a blog at tBlog??
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 03.16.06 (9:29 am)
Reply to: themarina
What's wrong with "fiance"? :-) It was weird with Big Legs. All night I wanted to kiss him, and when it happened, I felt so deflated! I will go out with him one more time, though at the very least.
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 03.16.06 (9:30 am)
Reply to: DeathByGlitter
One of my biggest fear these days is that a guy is only interested in getting in my pants. But I will give him another chance. I just don't want to kiss him right now!! *L*
posted by: javageek (reply)
post date: 03.16.06 (10:58 am)
Sorry to hear it sounds like date #2 could be awkward. Maybe you could engineer it to avoid the kiss at the end but I guess that bridge was already crossed.
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 03.16.06 (12:02 pm)
Reply to: javageek
If my cold actually comes into full bloom by this weekend, I have my excuse to not kiss BWAHAHAHA I don't know why I get freaked out like this. BWAHAHHAA
posted by: S-I-N-N-E (reply)
post date: 03.17.06 (1:38 am)
Reply to: rosietulips
Not yet, Im afraid. tho, i got a MSN space.
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 03.17.06 (8:21 am)
Reply to: S-I-N-N-E
I don't have one of those...How did you find my blog??
posted by: S-I-N-N-E (reply)
post date: 03.18.06 (3:04 am)
saw your respond from other's tblog.
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 03.18.06 (7:41 am)
Reply to S-I-N-N-E:
I see! Thanks for reading and commenting :)
posted by: mblog (reply)
post date: 03.27.06 (11:20 am)
Ya know, this whole post came as a big disappointment for me. I know I shouldn't be saying this, but I really like you, and I'm pretty sure I'd like it if I got into your pants. But to be realistic, I know there are a few obstacles. For starters, we are in different countries, and have never even met each other. Then there's the fact that I'm married, there might be too much of an age difference, and...that I wouldn't do it even if you begged me because of my relationship with my wife. Well, if you begged me then maybe just this once...what am I saying? I can't do that. Sorry. I mean I like you in that "she has a cool blog" sort of way, but as the owner of a penis, it's hard not to have a fleeting thought about anything that's female and moves, even if it's not realistic. Maybe that's a bit of an exaggeration. I should have added that the person would have to be totally hot. Maybe somewhat hot. And have a nice body. Or at least look nice. Not that I want to imply that you're not totally hot...I shouldn't have said that. Oh, wait. That sounds wrong too. It's not that I shouldn't have said it because I don't think you are totally hot, but I shouldn't have brought it up.
So anyway, what's this problem you seem to have with some guys? Do you think that we are all just sex crazed freaks who ramble on with nonsense about how they like you just because they can't control themselves? That just seems weird.
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 03.28.06 (8:58 am)
Reply to: mblog
I have to say, the more guys I meet, the more sex-crazed I think they are. It's to the point where I'm really careful about my body language and flirting so I don't give them the wrong idea! I am sure guys can control themselves, but they seem to like to pushy until the woman says stop. I hate having to be the one to stop any festivities!! Why can't guys do their own gauging??
posted by: mblog (reply)
post date: 04.07.06 (12:06 pm)
If guys did not have a natural urge to have sex with any woman who is reasonably attractive, then our species might not survive. It's a matter of recognizing cultural standards at the expense of biological urges. Even a guy who is a perfect gentleman should be that way because he is overcoming his desires, assuming his hormones are normal, not because he has no desire to have sex. Of course there are exceptions. These things change with age, and attractions to one's own relatives and to young children are not because of normal biological urges. But for a guy who is beyond 15, whose penis decided years ago to stand up and look around every hour, it's a lot harder to pretend that the biological part is not a factor.
To put it another way, if I were a dog and I stuck my face in your crotch, somebody might say "bad dog" and at worse, I'd get scolded for a few seconds. If that were the worst thing that happened to guys, they'd have their noses there too. It's a matter of what society accepts, and trying to push things is part of the culture. For your mom's generation, it was understood that "nice girls" didn't do those things. So if a young lady wanted to, it was still expected that she would say no and put up some resistance, and the guy would try until it became clear that it was a real problem. That way, it went as far as the woman wanted it to, but she did not have to feel that she was easy, since he forced himself on her. "No means no" is actually a fairly recent idea, and I'm still not sure if no means no. NO!!! means no.
Another problem is that guys are not good with body language, and have a much harder time telling friendly from flirting than you might think. "She's pretty. She smiled at me. She must want me." seems perfectly logical to many guys. "She said no, but was smiling, and that tiny slap is something she does to me all the time anyway," is another way of thinking that it's possible to go farther. "I'm having my period" is another way of saying to him that you want to have sex, but not just now. "I like you, but I have a boyfriend," is another way of saying that you like him and want to have sex with him, but it's not gonna happen and it probably won't change any time soon. "I like you, but not in that way," is another way of saying that the only thing wrong with him is that the thought of having his penis in you is revolting, and he is a failure as a man, but other than that, it would be fine to be friends.
Another problem is that guys know that relationships take time, but they just don't really understand why. "If she's letting me kiss her like this, then I know the sex will come eventually. I don't really know why she'll make me wait until after a few more dates, if she already knows that she'd be willing to do it, but that's how girls are. Strange, huh? I better not blow it between now and then." It's one thing if the woman says no right away, but guys can't understand why it's ok to start, and then put on the brakes, and then start again a few days later, and then put on the brakes a bit later, and so forth. If the testosterone level went up after the first kiss, guys do not have to ask themselves if they feel like going further or not. A woman might be wondering how she feels and what she wants to do next, but perky nipples could just mean that it's chilly. With a guy, there's no question what his body wants. He's not going to think, "OK, I have this erection, but do I really want to have sex now?" It's like being very hungry and having food in front of you. Somebody might tell you that it's not dinner time, but your natural reaction to seeing the food would not be to walk away thinking that somebody will call you for dinner when it's time anyway.
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