I have no patience for people who constantly complain to me about their love lives when they know they aren't helping themselves.

So my cousin...she's been dating this guy. She doesn't trust him and he sounds like a bit of a player and can be quite the attention whore. I just don't think there is any long-term potential for the two of them, and that is what she wants...something long -term.

That's just some background.

What annoys me is when I say something she doesn't like hearing, and she will turn it around and ask me, "well, how would you feel??" It's not about me!

Her guy travels, and she doesn't like it. She seems to think that if he didn't travel so much, they'd be together, the sun would always be shining, and the birds would be singing. I know my POV on LD relationships. I told her I wouldn't have dated him in the first place. "Well?? Is it because of the traveling??" 

It definitely pissed me off when I was pointing out that her bf keeps his options open. He gave her access to his e-mail (why? I don't know...), so she reads it regularly. And she reads the exchanges between him and all his exes (and the women that still want him). "Oh, all guys are like that. I bet Mr. Nick does it too." I don't think most guys are like that, especially if they are into the woman they're dating. While they've been dating, he's said things like "still thinking about the hot sex we had" to his ex/fling, and if there is no mention of my cousin (except for the mention of some hot 26 year old that was helping him to pass the time). He's 40 but I don't think he is ready to settle down, at least not with my cousin. He's tried breaking up with her a couple of times.