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| I hope I can sleep tonight |
| 01.30.07 (12:23 am) [edit] |
| I'm exhausted but my discussion with Mr. Nick from the weekend is still on mind -- mostly because there was a rehash earlier tonight. Against my better judgment, I brought it up anyway. I guess when there are things I am determined to express, I can't really wait. This conversation took place when he was tired. I basically told him I wasn't over it even though he apologised, but I told him I wanted to be over it and that I wasn't sure what anyone could do. I told him I just hoped I would just get over it in time. We have another double date coming up this weekend. I don't want to think of it as a test, but I have a feeling that's what it's going to turn out to be. Our phone conversation didn't end on a very good note. There was a lot of tension, and I feel bad about it. I did call him back to make an attempt to smooth things over, but I got his voice mail. I left a dumb message saying I didn't like how our conversation ended. I wasn't sure what else to say. A common thing that seems to happen when I tell a boyfriend about something he's done that I don't like is that they end up feeling like horrible people. Is that how guys work, or is it how I talk?? I try to do the proper resolution tones..."use 'I' instead of 'you'", and I try to soften the blows. But when I tell them how they hurt me and what I didn't like, they feel like total crap. And that's how Mr. Nick said he felt: beat up. And he was getting mad. I'm guessing he feeling mad/frustrated because he wasn't feeling like he was solving the problem and I was making him feel worse about it. Am I supposed to get across that even though he pissed me off, I don't feel differently about him?? I guess I will call him tomorrow night. He will have had a very long day and evening. I totally put up a wall tonight, and it's still not easy to stop myself from doing what comes naturally. Now I am just kicking myself! |
posted by: LadyG (reply)
post date: 01.30.07 (12:52 am)
Send Mr Nick some flowers with a sweet love note and never bring it up again. or a small gift of some kind.
posted by: 69whisper (reply)
post date: 01.30.07 (1:39 am)
LadyG has given a great suggestion but i dont agree with 'never bring it up' again. You need to talk, talk it out.... let him know what you have been going through and also be interested in what he has been going through during all this time. Hope things will get straight soon.
posted by: saycheese (reply)
post date: 01.30.07 (2:44 am)
I feel like I'm reading a story of myself when I & my bf argued. What we always do is, apologise and never bring it up again just like Lady G has said. Something would just go worse when we talk, so we'd better not mention about it again and remember it as a lesson. Or you can talk about it, sort things out later, when both of you are 100% happy :)
posted by: doeeyed (reply)
post date: 01.30.07 (7:05 am)
Give him a chance to make it better :)
posted by: doeeyed (reply)
post date: 01.30.07 (7:06 am)
This weekend should tell the tale.
(sorry, I hit enter before I meant to..duh)
posted by: Roxgirl (reply)
post date: 01.30.07 (8:12 am)
If it's still bothering you, you have to still talk about it, until the two of you can come to a rational consensus and fix the problem. If he does change and you are still unable to accept his behaviour, then there is a BIG problem... but I doubt that will happen!
I'm sure it'll all work out this weekend!
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 01.30.07 (5:16 pm)
Reply to: LadyG
Thanks for the suggestion :) What is a good flower to give men??
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 01.30.07 (5:18 pm)
Reply to: 69whisper
Thanks :) I think things will be resolved eventually. My anger has faded because I feel badly about hurting Mr. Nick and I am trying to remind myself to have a more open mind.
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 01.30.07 (5:18 pm)
Reply to: doeeyed
I guess we will see what pans out this weekend. I am sure he will be making an effort to be more attentive and less disrespectful.
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 01.30.07 (5:19 pm)
Reply to: Roxgirl
Unfortunately, there is no way to see instantly what the future brings. Only time will tell, and I will have to deal with it then. :-/
posted by: 69whisper (reply)
post date: 01.30.07 (11:51 pm)
Reply to: rosietulips
thats better :)
posted by: LadyG (reply)
post date: 01.31.07 (8:26 am)
Reply to: rosietulips,
rosie, A single rose is good until valentines day. Men like masculine designs. The exotic ones are nice.
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