In preparation of picking up my authenticated documents from the visa office, I had to stop by my mom's. I'll be couriering my documents to Hong Kong, and she needed to write the address in Chinese. Due to some miscommunication I found out that she was still at work. I had gone to her place first, but she wasn't there. When I talked to her on the phone, she made it seem like a really big deal that I hadn't called her first and went to her place for no reason. Everything is so *obvious*. "Of *course* you should have called first!" I don't even understand why she was yelling.

Turns out I didn't need her to write the address. If she told me what was on the piece of paper in the package I received, I would have known it was the address and not a note. What a waste of time to even see her for it.

And to top it off, we got into an argument when I did see her. Every time I've seen my mom in the last month has just been very upsetting for me. I've ended up in tears every time. I let her know that Cindy was coming back at the end of this month. Then she went right into ..."how long is she going to live there? I thought her tenant was a student? [Cindy has been renting out her own place when she lived with my dad] School was out in April!" And then the car was brought up again.

Actually, Cindy talked to me about the car and her son's situation. I was a little uncomfortable. I only want to know if she wants keep and buy the car. I wasn't offering to lend it to her. She seemed disappointed when I told her I canceled my dad's cell phone. She had planned on keeping the number and using it. I am fine with selling her the car, but I am not fine with her borrowing the car so her son can use it. Apparently, her son got into a car accident, and his car was under her insurance? I wasn't sure what situation was. But before my mom heard any other details, she just went right into "her son *absolutely CANNOT* take the car! For free??"

At this point I was just frustrated. This woman does not listen. I cannot understand where all this anger is coming from. I just yelled at her that I was no longer going to tell her any more about what I was doing with my dad's stuff. I still need to get his old photos back. For some reason, she thought I was giving them to her. I was lending them to her to pick out the old photos she wanted. She had the nerve to say, "I'm going to throw out the rest" even though I had told her I was going to give the rest back to my aunts...aunts who are still alive and IN THE PHOTOS. When she knew I was angry, she got angrier. "Fine! Do what you want! I don't care if you give away all your dad's money!"

I have had it with this woman. I don't want to see her. I don't want to talk to her. And I only made dim sum Mother's Day plans with her out of obligation. I don't want to do anything for Mother's Day. At this point, I don't think she has a right in telling me what to do in regards to my dad. It's already hard for me doing the right thing and honouring any wishes my dad may have had, but for my own mother to want to fight about every single one of my decisions just makes me really angry. Why can't she just support me?

She could have easily accompanied me doing anything related to getting my dad's death certificate or dealing with his estate, but instead she stood back as if it wasn't her job. And all of a sudden, I'm supposed to deny my father's girlfriend of everything because of how she feels. I'm sure she feels she is entitled to something, but I am not sure what. At this point, she is also the sole beneficiary of my dad's life insurance money. If it means so much to get something out of my dad's death, I might as well just tell her to keep all the money even though she told me she would give it to me.

I look forward to post Mother's Day so I can avoid her for a while. I'd tell her how I feel, but she would never understand. She doesn't have the ability to see things from someone else's point of view.