You know how you're supposed to not send (negative) emails when you're upset. I held off the first time, but this time I lightly unleashed.

I know someone who used to be a friend. (What do you call that person after you grow apart? A friend? An acquaintance?) This person is one of the first people I met through the Internet in the late 90s. I guess we emailed/IMed regularly until he moved to Hong Kong when he got married. (I attended the wedding.) Then our communication pretty much stopped. I didn't see him or his wife when I was in Hong Kong last year. Since I'm going to Hong Kong, he and I have had a couple of Facebook conversations through messages. At some point I told him that Mr. Nick wanted to move in together, but I didn't want to. He made a comment about me "still" making guys jump through hoops for me.

The comment really bothered me, but I didn't say anything. I mean really...like I have an ulterior motive for denying Mr. Nick the pleasure of living with me. Give me a break! Like I'm not allowed to not want to live with somebody.

And then in our latest exchange, he said it was "impressive" that I was bringing Mr. Nick with me [thus meeting my relatives from abroad -- some of which he's already met]. When I commented "hardly," he retorted back with "And then there's the living together thing. Even if it's only for a couple of weeks."

I wrote back to him basically saying that I'd like him to keep his opinions and judgments to himself about my relationship with Mr. Nick since he didn't know anything about our relationship, and that he hadn't been in my life for the last several years. I told him I wasn't the same person I was 10 years ago, even though I should have said 15.

After these conversations, I really wonder what the point of seeing him would be.