Mr. Nick and I went to a wedding yesterday. It was all very short and sweet. The newlyweds are such a nice couple, too -- very down-to-earth and lots of fun! I'm glad there was one person we didn't have to sit with for the reception though. She is a very nice girl and quite warm and friendly. The only thing is that she talks a lot...and seems to be an expert on evertyhing --well, mostly giving birth. However, she has no kids and has never given birth.

I could probably count the number of times I have been around this person, but she has talked about having kids a number of those times. She is definitely prepared to have them. In between the ceremoney and reception, a bunch of us went to grab a bite to eat. There, she asked one of the guys if his wife tore when she gave birth. "A lot of women tear and need stitches." And then she went on to talk about doulas and midwives but couldn't remember the word doula and wasn't sure of the difference. But she was adamant that she would have a midwife and a doctor when she gives birth. When I told her that the government only covered the cost of one or the other to assist with the birth, she disagreed and said "well, a midwife would cost only $2000". I kind of tuned out... I didn't want to hear more about giving birth.

At the restaurant she also asked me if I got my dress "back home" when I went to visit. I guess I still have issues around my cultural identity or something because comments are supposed to slide right off my back. I said, "pardon?" And she repeated her question. So I told her, "yes, I got my dress in Hong Kong." But it really bothers me when people think my "home" is Hong Kong. Thanks for your assumptions! What gives off the impression that I'm from somewhere else? Oh, right...it's my skin tone and hair colour. Nothing else about the way I look gives the indication of where I am from. But I do know that I don't dress like someone from Asia, and I don't wear my makeup that way either.

I was trapped for a little bit in the bathroom. The first time, I avoided the bathroom when I saw her go in, but this time, she went in after me. She talked about my dress some more and told me how she got an Asian dress many years ago and rambled on to me about how the sales woman told her she was too fat for the dress. And then she told me her shopping experience with this clerk 5 different ways. 

Another thing struck me that was odd. When her boyfriend left the restaurant to go set up the music for the reception, she said something about being confident enough that she would be okay with her boyfriend not being there that moment and with him leaving. If she was, did she have to say something about it?