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A coworker asked me how much I was paying for my new place. I tried to deflect the question by answering "too much." He asked again, so I repeated my answer and walked away. Who asks these kind of things?! I've decided to not buy a yogurt maker because I already have the tools to make yogurt! I am going to use my thermal cooker. I just need to find the information about temperatures and the exact process. Thanks to tampi for giving me an introduction! I really dislike working at home.
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posted by: janet (reply)
post date: 05.26.09 (2:22 pm)
I find it weird how often people ask me how much something big and expensive cost. I was always taught that was incredibly rude.
posted by: barnabus1 (reply)
post date: 05.26.09 (6:56 pm)
Smile and ask them, "Why do you want to know?"
It's akin to what business is it of yours, and puts the monkey on their back, If they do answer that, tell them to just get the best deal they can!!!
posted by: helen (reply)
post date: 05.27.09 (5:50 am)
Don't be angry, he could just belong to another culture and always was thought that it is incredibly rude not to answer the questions of not about intimate matters, but where and how to find something, how much it costs, was it a trouble free and so on. You know, the kind of things that here are usually recommended to ask your friends, colleges or people you know in general about when looking for service. If this is the case, you may tell him openly what is considered here to be rude and why. It will be part of learning and adaptation for him.
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 05.27.09 (8:36 am)
Reply to: janet
I thought it was rude of him to ask. If I really wanted him to know, I would have told him! Even my friends haven't asked me!
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 05.27.09 (8:37 am)
Reply to: barnabus1
I just tried to avoid discussing it any further by leaving! Not answering the question the first time he asked should have let him know well enough that I didn't want to answer! But I guess he thought I misunderstood his question.
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 05.27.09 (8:41 am)
Reply to: helen
I'm not angry about him for asking me how much my new home cost; I just thought he should have minded his own business. And he does belong to "another culture." I was tempted to ask him how much his home cost to see if he'd tell me, but I didn't because I didn't want to share that information about myself.
I understand his culture because we both have Chinese roots. He's made a lot of old school assumptions about me, and I didn't want him to have further judgments. He asked me if my mom made my lunches for me -- 'nuff said.
But just because I thought he asked me a question that too personal for me to answer doesn't mean someone else wouldn't answer his question. I'm not going to tell him that it's rude to ask such things!
posted by: bawdy (reply)
post date: 05.27.09 (1:28 pm)
So..how much are you paying for the new place? heh
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 05.27.09 (1:43 pm)
Reply to: bawdy
I'd tell you if you asked me in person!
posted by: bawdy (reply)
post date: 05.28.09 (12:17 pm)
Reply to: rosietulips
But then you'd bicker in your blog about how rude it was, right? ;-)
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 05.28.09 (12:28 pm)
Reply to: bawdy
Of course not! Are you my crystal ball now??
Am I going to get laid tonight??
posted by: bawdy (reply)
post date: 05.29.09 (1:17 pm)
Reply to: rosietulips
If I had my way you would!
posted by: Trina (reply)
post date: 06.04.09 (1:41 pm)
I think for me it depends on who's doing the asking. If it's a weird coworker that I am not that fond of then heck no I'm not giving them that information. But I wouldn't be offended if a close friend or family member asked. I think that's part of being "Southern" for me. I am a pretty open person in general.
But you are right. He should have gotten the hint the first time. If you didn't answer, then hello: get a clue that it's none of your business! lol
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 06.08.09 (8:51 pm)
Reply to: Trina
I probably wouldn't bat an eyelash if someone close to me asked me about my home's purchase price! But I am definitely not close with this coworker!
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