That's what I said to the P Man. I think when I say things, I usually mean it even if sometimes I brush it off as a joke.
I guess I did not realise how patient I had been with him. It was the last straw yesterday when he decided to bail with hanging out with me and my friends. I called him selfish and unreliable. After all, I had asked him early in the week if he wanted to join me with my friends, and he said yes. What kind of a person would call a few hours before and suggest a new plan? "Do you want to see The Grudge tonight?" "No. We already have other plans." Then he said he didn't feel like having a movie night in on a Saturday night [never mind that he had suggested renting scary movies for Hallowe'en], and that why didn't he meet up with me after. I told him no and that every time we've made plans to meet up, it never happens [because of him]. Then he said he was going to do some thinking and that he'd call me back later that day. Twenty-four hours and nothing.
I have to admit, we have chemistry, but I don't think he's the kind of guy I want as a boyfriend at this point in my life. Round 1 and 2 had the same issues. In fact, the reason I got so mad at him at the end of round 2 was when he wasn't getting it when I told him I could be treated better.
If someone is close to me, I like to include him in the things I do. It takes me a while to even feel that comfortable. For me, it's a big step. And every single time, I've asked him to do something or go with me somewhere in advance, he has bailed on me. Every time. No exaggeration.
So...I don't want a boyfriend who never wants to do what I want to do, isn't reliable, and doesn't have the ability to think for two instead of one. I am kind of embarrassed to tell people about him. And why? Because I know I could do better.
I was feeling really horrible yesterday because he just wasn't seeing things my way and I was trying to explain the best I could. But then I got some advice from my best friend's mom and my friend, E. They all told me stuff I knew deep down. So I felt better.
Every time I come to my senses about a guy, I feel a sense of calm and I know that I will get over it. I am back to the "too bad things didn't work out with the P Man" feeling.